Friendships can be difficult to keep but rewarding if maintain. Have you ever had the feeling that a friend is just drifting away from you? Many people, especially teens, have problems finding and keeping their friends. The truth is that making new friends is easy. Keeping them, however, is a different story. Commitment is central to the long-lasting friendship.
Friendships difficult to keep up.
We tend to believe that companionship supposed to be simple and relaxed, and that if you need to put too much effort, then it’s not worth it. The important phases of your live – switching from elementary to secondary school, going to high school or college – are marked by constant changes in your social circle. It’s easy to stay close with your neighbor, while you’re both going to the same school and having sleepover at your or their place every weekend.
as we grow older, we tend to drive ourselves apart. We surround ourselves with different people, who share similar interests as us, or go to the same places we go. This is especially true for teenagers, whose life falls into a particularly disrupted and chaotic phase. Changing your school and your habits, growing up and facing teen life challenges might drift you away from your best friends. You feel like you’re not as interested in their problems as before, or perhaps is the other way around.
Keeping up Friendships
The truth is that keeping a friendship requires a lot of effort on your and your pact. As you to go different schools and your daily routine changes, it’s incredibly easy to grow apart. So, if you want to keep your BFF, you need to work for that to happen. Arrange a sleepover every once in a while, or go together to see a favorite movie. Find times to talk to them and try to understand that, as you grow and change, they’ll do as well that the meaning of harmony.
However, it’s not always necessary or healthy – to stick to a kinship that’s growing apart. Sometimes it might seem like it’s too much effort and you’re simply not getting anything from spending time with your once-close buddy. Try to think about it and understand why it’s so difficult to keep your friendship with this particular person or people – is it because you don’t have time for them, or because you’re simply too different?
Friendships is rewarding if maintain
Maybe that girl you used to spend hours giggling and talking about everything, is now only interested in herself? Maybe they’re just not into going to the movies or playing the sports you used to love as kids? Commitment is important and meeting of the minds is about support and fun. If you are struggling to keep someone who doesn’t want to be kept, just let it go. Sometimes friend just too difficult to keep
Growing up means changing, your appearance, your attitude towards life, your interests and passions. It’s a natural process that will affect every teenager. It will mean losing some friends and drifting away from others… but it will also mean finding new support system. New relationships that will help you grow and develop into an adult. So, the bottom line: fight for those friendships that are worth fighting for. But be just as welcoming to the new opportunities and new people who will enter your life.
It is hard to maintain friendships over the years especially as our time gets divided and our priorities shift. Great article!
Tanya, Glad you like this post and thank you for your support.
Friendships like any other relationship require work and commitment. My best friend and I have been friends for 32 years. We have had our ups and downs but I wouldn’t trade her for anything in the world. I love our bond. I’ve also been blessed to find great friends in my adult life.
MJ, Glad you like it. Thanks for continue support.
You’re right – friendships can be very difficult to hang on to. I’ve struggled with it quite a bit as I’ve moved around the country, leaving some folks behind and picking others up. Those people who have been there, continue to be there even though I’m not the best at keeping in touch.
Jen, The once’s that remain is really yor friends. Glad you like it. Thanks for your support.
this is amazing post ! i have learned over the year that true friend are hard to find but when you find them you have to keep them close! i would rather have a small circle of friends i trust then fake friends
Jazmine, This is so true. Thank you for stopping by.
Friends are definitely hard to make and keep no matter how old you are. I hate when friends start to drift away but more than that I hate when I feel myself moving on from a friendship.
Ricci. I understand point well said about friends hard to make & keep. Thanks for your support.
It is hard to keep some friendships, especially when you start having kids. I’m watching my teens go through some rocky friendships and it’s hard to just sit back and watch!
Amy, yes you are so right these rocky friendships take its toll on a person after a while. Your teens will learn. I think its part of life.