Trust issues can have a serious effect on you. Whether its friends, family, co-workers, or strangers, we interact with people on a daily basis. If we don’t trust them, it could make it that much harder to get through the day. What’s worse, it can trigger anxiety and fear. The problem arises when love is misplaced with distrust. How do you deal with see everyday problems “I’m not upset that you lied to me, I’m upset that from now on I can’t believe you.― Friedrich Nietzsche.
While it’s often painted as paranoia, some level of distrust is actually quite healthy. Locking our doors at night, keeping private information (credit card numbers, for example) to ourselves… all of that is good and wise, and borne out of distrust, in a sense.
Trust Issues causes.
A person’s trust problems are often borne out of personal experience. For example, someone who was abandoned by a parent as a child may find it hard to trust that others would not do the same. Being hurt by a romantic partner may leave you expecting future ones to do the same. These past experiences leave a person who has severe trust issues constantly on edge. With an eye ever-open for the next time a friend, loved one or stranger will break that fragile trust.
Even without proof of broken trust, they will find it. All this, as you can imagine, leaves you open to problems with anxiety.
Levels of distrust may also have:
- Stormy/rocky relationships
- Lack communication with friends, and family.
- Bouts of terror
So, as you can see, finding a healthy between trust and distrust is crucial for our relationships with others and with ourselves. Therapy can help you find that balance. A qualified therapist, spiritual leader, or other mental health professional will help you identify the source of your excessive mistrust, and guide you towards healthier thought processes. What’s more, group or couple’s therapy can be a big help if the situation calls for it. This can help repair broken relationships and help you to learn how to trust again.
How to deal with trust issues that trigger anxiety to trust again
- Breathing techniques can be very useful in calming the mind, and regaining control of your thoughts. By focusing inward for a while, you distract yourself from toxic thoughts. When your attention returns to those thoughts, you may be better able to guide your thinking to healthier, more logical directions.
- Expressing your thoughts and feelings to someone you trust, in a safe (non-judgemental) environment can also be a big help. A family member or an old friend can provide a listening ear, or even advice. Even journaling or artistic expressions like drawing or creative writing can be a great way to release those negative feelings, and sort through them.
The most important thing, though, is to take the first step: identify that you have trust issues, and actually want to move towards a healthier mental state.