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Self-Pity Might Be The Very Thing That’s Keeping You Under

“Self-pity becomes your oxygen. But you learned to breathe it without a gasp. So, nobody even notices you’re hurting.” – Paul Monette We’ve all had those moments or days where we wallow in our own self-pity. Life is not always fair and we do feel sorry for ourselves. Maybe you studied harder than anyone for that test and you still failed. To top it off, your friend who never studies passed with flying colors and doesn’t even care about the results.Self-Pity Might Be The Very Thing That's Keeping You Under

Self-Pity  Might Be The Very Thing That’s Keeping You Under

How much good does self-pity do, though?

The answer is quite simple. Its like sugar, it’s got absolutely zero nutritional value and doesn’t benefit your soul, or mental health. In the least bit. The thing about self-pity is that it’s deeply rooted in our self-esteem. Actually, the two are more connected by pride than anything else. I know, I know…I’m not making you feel any better by judging your ego here. BUT understanding why self-pity is actually an important step in ditching this habit. Simple and without any serious pointing of fingers that will leave you feeling even more scarred.Self-Pity Might Be The Very Thing That's Keeping You Under

Self-Pity Might Be The Very Thing That’s Keeping You Under

While it’s ok to feel overwhelmed done in. Treated unfair when bad situations arise. It’s the lingering on the negative that’s really damaging. The pity party lasts longer. Than the tough situation does. We carry self indulgence  like an oversized bag and we start packing everything we can fit into it in.

Self-Pity Might Be The Very Thing That’s Keeping You Under personal belongings so stuffed. The natural thing would be. To put the bag down or empty it. We don’t.  Our baggages stays close to us. Getting harder to deal with each day. Have you ever had to lug a heavy backpack around with you all day? Maybe while you were traveling. Or on a day where you had to take extra books to class? Remember that feeling. Of  wanting to put the heavy bag down? You started feeling tired and irritated. At the fact that it was so heavy. Even hurt your arms and back to carry. To lug around. That’s what the self-pity bag does.Self-Pity Might Be The Very Thing That's Keeping You Under

Self-Pity Might Be The Very Thing That’s Keeping You Under

So the question is how exactly do we put it down?

Its more of a habit that’s not easy to pinpoint. But it can be changed.  Tom Robbins had this to say about Self-pity and self-esteem alike: “Heh! Self-esteem is for sissies. Accept that you’re a pimple and try to keep a lively sense of humor about it. That way lies grace and maybe even glory.”

Self-Pity Might Be The Very Thing That’s Keeping You Under

A little bit of soul searching and acceptance. What you find hidden can help you heal. In the long term. Accept the truth and make the right changes. Instead of  stuffing more into your tote bag. Try carry less it’s a lighter load.

Let’s all of us pimples as Tom Robbins says. Get to know ourselves. A little better and ditch the drama. Its for our own good and the good of others. I’ll leave you with the words of Catherynne M. Valente and the comical way she views self-pity. “You ain’t no wood stove. You can’t just squat in the middle of my house and stew.”  Do you get it. What do you think? Talk to me. No pity party here not today. Genuine friendships allowed with Friends. Who will be pick you up. When self-pity takes its toll.  leave your comment below