Parents should Avoid
Discipline Mistakes more parents should avoid. Seeing your pre-teen successfully into her teenage years can be overwhelming. You may make many mistakes. Fixing them should be something you start working on immediately. Don’t wait until your child is a teenager. To make amend your discipline strategies. what you can do to steer clear of making them.“There’s nothing more complicated — or fragile — than the relationship between parents and their children. It’s like no other relationship and no one tells you how to make it work. Either you find your way or you don’t.”
― Michael Thomas Ford
7 deadly Discipline Mistakes more Parents should Avoid
- Not Standing United
Letting your child play you against your partner is a sure-fire way of cementing some very bad habits in your child. Talk to each other about the way you prefer handling the discipline. If you disagree, look for the middle ground and be sure to cover all the angles. So that you are not caught unawares by your teen.
Deadly Discipline Mistakes
- Guilt tripping your child
Steer clear of this. It’s emotionally scarring and has far-reaching effects that last well into adulthood. The consequences take a lot of effort on the part of the child to undo later in life. If you think you’re a guilt-tripper, try talking to your child about it. Ask her how she feels.
- BEING INCONSISTENT
Being consistent is not something that comes naturally to everyone. But studies show that children do well with boundaries. It’s not too late to start being firm and consistent. Positive disciple techniques should be firm with no and your yes at all time.
- LYING TO A CHILD
You may be surprised to find that something you thought was completely innocent, like telling a white lie, can actually break your child’s trust in you. When trying to raise a truthful child, it’s recommended that you teach them that a lie even a white lie. You’ll have to tell the truth too. You will have to decide as a parent what is and isn’t acceptable. and be sure to revert to point number 1. Always consistent with your teachings.
Mistakes
- NOT BEING A GOOD MODEL
One of the easiest ways of teaching your child good behavior is to model good behavior. A practice-what-you-preach method can strengthen your child’s trust. In your parenting and show them directly what you expect of them.
7 deadly Discipline Mistakes more Parents should Avoid
ALLOWING THE CHILD TO MAKE THE RULES
You are the parent, you have years more experience and you have been given the gift of raising your child. Don’t let your teenager get the better through manipulation rules into a “more acceptable” version of hers. Man-up so-to-say, and stick to your guns.
- ALLOWING A CHILD TOO MUCH FREEDOM
Your child should be allowed certain freedoms and she even has a right to some. They should, however, be within boundaries. Be clear about the boundaries you set. For example, she may be given the freedom to express herself, but she should NOT be allowed to do so explicitly. Respect and consideration should be foundation of her liberties.
Parenting is an adventure and you’re not quite done yet. If you’re feeling low or having an hard time disciplining your child. Remember to be patient and persevere. What you would like her to be to the world and show her that respect and compassion is always the way
These are some very important tips I think every parent should read. Thanks for sharing. I like the value your blog provides. Good advice.
Being in education almost 20 years, I definitely see the result of these mistakes. Most often, parents just do not discipline or try to discipline once things are too far gone. Therefore, children expect other adult to receive them in the same manner as their parents.
For parents who try to “parent” from the friend perspective, do stop that habit.
These are very good tips! It’s important to be honest with your kids but on a level that they will be able to grasp. My children are 4 & 6 years old. Great advice!
Emerald, You are so correct it’s important for the kids to grasp on their level and also for parents to understand and learn from their discipline mistakes.
Love these tips! My oldest turns 13 this year and right now it’s a fine line between trying to nuture her and also letting her grow up. Such a tough age especially for girls and how they treat one another and trying to explain to my daughter how to get along with them.
These are great tips and things I practice as well with my own children. My mom used to give me horrible guilt trips, which I’ve internalized and still do to myself even now. Thankfully, I have a good husband who reminds me I don’t need to feel guilty.
Having both parent who are consistently united in the discipline of the children can make a difference.
Great post. I admit my discipline has been a trial and error type of thing. Things that worked with me or my husband just don’t work with my son! But we always present a united front even if we don’t agree! This parenting gig is a process!
Lashawn trail an error I understand you fully I have been down that road. But if both parent keep up consistently the kids will get it united is the key. Thanks for your support
Being consistent has been so important when raising my son. He remembers what I say and why and it helps eliminate any confusion.
Such a great list! These kids today-wooosaw! So different from how I remember being raised. Allowing them to set the rules and have to much freedom shouldn’t even come up since being a parent means parenting and as you said being a good role model.
Being a good role model is so important, and so many parents fail here. I know we all make mistakes, but I hate to see when parents are hard on a child for simply mirroring their behaviour.
Donna, Adult are expected to act a certain way. If we were never taught how ……We can’t be a role Model for our child that is how we fail.
Great tips! Thanks for sharing. The consistency part is always the hard one for me.
Good post! I don’t have children. But, my firends definitely face some of these challenges on a daily basis. Kids are so much smarter now, and I think you have to have a plan of how you want to handle them. These are some great tips, and I’ll definitely share them with my friends with children.
Pamela, glad you like this post hope you would share with your friends who has kids. Thanks for your support