Change First If you’re reading this, you must have wondered about how people perceive you. At least once or twice in your life. We all wonder about this and everyone has to re-invent themselves as they grow. Characteristics a vital elements to your wardrobe. Can enhance your physical presentation of yourself. But sometimes this is just not enough. That’s because the way others see you. Is sometime the way you see yourself. “To change ourselves effectively, we first had to change our perceptions.” Stephen R. Covey, The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People: Powerful Lessons in Personal Change.
Change First your own viewpoint.
Changing your own thought patterns is probably the most important gift you can give to yourself. It’s the way others view you. If you feel negatively toward yourself people are around you, it will rub off on them too. Before you know it, their mental picture of you is a direct translation of what you’ve painted.
People have their own insecurities
Another’s view of you can be reflected from their own ideas about themselves too. This is especially true for someone who is less emotionally stable. Why not concentrate less on what that person is thinking of you at that moment and try to find a way to connect to the person. Try complimenting him or her, and be sure it’s a sincere compliment.
Change First your own perspective and people see differently.
Tell them that they really light up the room when they smile and not commenting on how beautiful it is. Notice quality of that person’s attributes and not the actual physical attribute. Highlighting something special about that person will automatically take the focus away from you and positively re-direct it, possibly even encouraging the person to reciprocate.
- Concentrate inner character & outward appearance
Whatever’s within will shine through. “Sometimes your light shines so bright that it blinds people from seeing who you really are.” Shannon L. Alder. Be the kind of person you really want to be by making the effort to hone your character and communication skills. If you’re not so adept at that, don’t fret over it, everyone has gifts unique to them. Make sure that you know what yours are and work towards specializing in them. Remember, it’s not about what you wear, but the way you wear it. That means that if you’re classy and elegant, it will shine through your clothes especially when you wear your character with confidence.
Change First your own perspective and people see differently
Basic communication skills: Reaching out
There is a saying, if you want a friend, be a friend. This sort of connection building not only helps people get to know you for the person you really are, it helps you to feel infinitely better about yourself and the way you fit into the world.
- Managing Change Care less what others say
When you care too much about what another thinks of you or is saying about you, you’re inclined to “compensate”. Sometimes this could mean degrading your character or making space for another’s ideal all for the sake of an opinion offered by a stranger. Is it really worth it? It seems that so much time, emotion and effort could be saved by simply switching off the what-are-they-thinking radar we all have built-in.
First change yourself.
Most importantly, remember that you have no say over what someone thinks of you and you could spend all your time trying to please others. This is going to tire you out in the long run and it’s likely you’ll get very little satisfaction from this sort of goal. Look in for that change in pattern and you have a winning recipe for success.