Healing take time
Parental love is essential to Healing our inner child. They provide the basic necessities, such as food, support and a roof over their head and are part of how you perceives the world. Your relationship with your parents is a model of every one of your adult relationships. Withdrawal of their love can become detrimental to the psychological and emotional well being of a young child. “She held herself until the sobs of the child inside subsided entirely. I love you, she told herself. It will all be okay.” H. Raven Rose.
Wounded Child need time to heal.
When kids are left alone by their caregivers they tend to blame themselves. It’s their fault; they feel not smart, pretty or good enough to make their parent stay with the family. Letters written to missing parents is a heartbreaking thing to read.
Parents your time and patience will help your child to heal.
Letter to Parents
Why do you hate me??? Why did you leave my mom? I waited, we waited, but you never came home. Was it I? Is it because I’m not smart enough, because I don’t play well with others, because I don’t always listen? My dad a lair, I can’t stand you, you never coming back, I knew it. Remind me not again, you always say that.
How Healing our Inner Self with love take time and patience
You left us and I feel pain! why promised you’d never leave me, you never came back, and we were a family! You are a liar!
How many little girls can say they have this kind of daddy emotional
I waited for you, every night, and every morning when I get up, celebrate every birthday with a stranger, hoping for you to come back… if I’m so bad why did leave, why was I ever born???
Heal inner sorrow.
The emotions of these wounded children often shift between sadness and anger. But the common theme is almost always self-blame. These lacking feelings persist throughout adolescent into adulthood. Can have an impact on their quality of life. Their perception of themselves and every relationship they have as adults.
How Healing our Inner Self with love take time and patience
Support and trust are the first building stones towards healing your character. Whether you’re helping yourself or trying to help a child coping with rejection. The first thing you need to do is to create a caring environment. Validates in a non-shaming way. People, who experiences parental neglect impact of these experiences in their minds.
Accept the facts
Child abandonment is the practice of relinquishing interests and claims over one’s offspring in a way with the intent of never again resuming.
Healing is a work in process.
Evoking deep feelings of sadness and remorse. But they are just another step in the healing process. Kids who have experienced parental abandonment in early childhood has left them wounded and scarred. Often they are afraid to love or trust. Not wanted to be hurt again. They end up concealing their pain from others. You have to realize that hiding it from yourselves is not the norm. It can make you depressed.
Embrace you’re suffering, loneliness and shame. Accept that it’s a part of your life. Forgive and let the healing begin.
I don’t understand how a parent can leave a child behind, but sadly it’s all too common.
A very thought provocing article, I don’t think people realise how deeply children are affected by parents leaving the home or how far into the future it affects them.
I have seen that video and it brings tears to my eyes. I was lucky to not have abandonment issues because my parents are always present in my life.
That letter broke my heart. Parenting is so much more than teaching your child right from wrong, they watch the way you carry out relationships too.
I can definitely see how this has lasting effect on kids. The process of healing through that emotional hurt must be difficult.
My stepdaughter was abandoned by her mother and had drug issues because of it.
Cindy (Prime Beauty), Sad to hear about your step-daughter hope all is well. It’s hard for these kids to rebound if they don’t have a person around them who is supportive.
This is a very good post. Even children who come from divorced parents often feel abandoned which is sad. They often think it’s their fault when it isn’t at all.
This was enlightening and sad to read. I was adopted, and definitely have abandonment issues.
Jeni Hawkins, Abandonment issues are hard to deal with I understands. Working on our self is a process. Belief and trust in yourself.
The letter was really break my heart. I don’t know why the other parents can leave their child. It was really hurt.
Victoria, Sometime the parent had children at a young age. Kids need us to believe in them that what they ask for not money just security.
I’ve already seen this video, that was very inspiring story, I think the father has a multi task in that video.
What a sad story. Abandonment can leave a very strong impact in a child’s life, but accepting it as part of your life can really help you heal.
Feeling alone is a terrible feeling, and being alone while questioning your own self worth is even harder. I have seen many friends go through various stages of dealing with it, and it is such a process to try and understand it’s not your fault while being accountable for your own behavior that stems from these feelings.
My sister-in-law abandoned all three of her children. She just went to work one day and decided never to come back home. She is a 40+ year old woman and she still lives with her parents. The sad part is that her ex husband died a few years ago, so they lost both their parents. They grew up with their grandparents. Her children are now teens, and the youngest has tried committing suicide at least once. I despise her for what she did to those kids. Any time we invite my mother-in-law over to visit, she brings my SIL along, and then my SIL actually tries to give me parenting advice.
Stephanie, Try to forgive your sister in law and focus on the teens that needed a parent love, guidance and understanding, thank god for grandmothers.