Self-love is crucial for good mental health. If you don’t love yourself, you won’t be happy with who you are, and that can contribute to depression. As a teen, this can be especially challenging, but let’s explore how to work towards loving yourself. It’s ok to be different. “When you’re different, sometimes you don’t see the millions of people who accept you for what you are. All you notice is the person who doesn’t.” ― Change of Heart
Self-Love you first
Self-love is more than just self-esteem or self-confidence. It’s the driving force that will lead you to make decisions that are good for you, your health, and your happiness.
When people don’t love themselves, they often find themselves saying and thinking very negative things about themselves. One simple way to counteract these negative thoughts is to respond to them.
Self confidence is Self-love.
You can even do it aloud if you’re by yourself: “No, I am not stupid.” You can regularly write positive things about yourself or positive achievements in a journal or diary. As you actively point out these things to yourself, your subconscious will eventually start believing them.
Forgiven one self is self-love
Another important thing is to forgive yourself. We all make mistakes, and we all do things that we later regret. However, these do not have to define us. Instead of dwelling on these things, see them as lessons. Yes, except that they happened, but move on from them.
You don’t have to be that person anymore. You are changing and growing day by day. Plan out how you are going to react to a similar situation in the future. Yes, you may fail again, but you are a work in progress. You will get better at it with time. Also, accept who you are. Sometimes, we internalize society’s idea about who we should be: A specific height, a specific body type, or have a specific interest or intelligence type.
How to Learn Self-Love
Develops healthy self esteem starts by accepting yourself for who you are, not what others want you to be. However, we are not all the same. Some of us can be around people for a long time, but others get tired from too much social stimulation.
As long as who you are is not a danger yourself or anyone else, there’s nothing about you that needs fixing.
There are times when all this will be easier than others. For example, you will likely find it harder when you’re in a bad mood. It’s important to recognize that this happens so that your logical mind will be better able to combat these negative thoughts when they are at their most powerful.
Now, for parents: You are an important part of helping your teens to love themselves. You want the best for them but be careful not to be too overbearing. Parental acceptance and recognition are powerful tools to developing self-love. As you encourage them towards being the best they can be, don’t compare them to others. Don’t dismiss their interests or identities. Be open to discovering who they are becoming.
The journey to self-love is one that never ends. But it really is worth it.