Understanding depression will take time. Recognizing the signs your child has been displaying. It’s not easy to know your happy go lucky youth may be sad or struggling with depression. This is how adolescent feel. This quote summons up: “Everything that irritates us about others can lead us to an understanding of ourselves.” ― C.G. Jung. Here is what they wanted you to know.
Dear Parents, It’s Your Problem, Not Mine – Teenage Depression. You get mad at me when I don’t do what you expect me to do. “Do your schoolwork,” “Do your chores,” “Stop being so lazy,” “Stop drowning yourself in music and come back to the real world!”
I’m trying. I really am. I’ve been trying to tell you. But you don’t listen, you don’t understand. You never seem to have the time for me. I know I get angry, I know I shout. I don’t know why I do. You say it’s a phase. Teenage rebellion. But it’s not. It’s something so deeply rooted I can’t get it out.
Not by myself. I love you, I really do. And I know you love me. But how do I tell you, how do I explain it all? I’m afraid you’ll be disappointed in me. I’m so scared of that. I see disappointment in your eyes every single day, and I don’t want to make it worse.
You don’t know how hard you make it. I know you’re trying you’re best. I want to tell you. But I’m afraid of what you’ll say. I… don’t know if I can trust you with the truth. I don’t know how you’ll react when I tell you I’m hurting inside. Or why I’m hurting inside. Will you tell me to “man up”, or “get over it”?
Will you say, “It’s not that bad” or “stop being such a child”? Or will you say, “It’s your fault for getting into mess that in the first place”? Please… let me know I can tell you what I’m feeling, that you won’t judge me, that you don’t tell me I’m a disappointment, or a failure. Talk with me, not just at me.
How to make my parents begins with understanding depression.
I’m not saying it’s your fault. I’m just trying to get you to see things from my point of view. You’re strong, I know you are. I need that strength. So we can get through this. And we can get through this. Together, it’s not too late.