Living without a father.
Fatherless boys when we think about family, we tend to imagine the “classical” stereotypical scenario. One mom and dad, and two kids. The reality is quite different. There are and always have been thousands of boys, forced to live and grow up without a father figure.
Fatherless Boys
Research suggests that children living in single Parent households experience altered behavior. They at greater risk of alcohol, drug abuse, mental illness, and teen pregnancy. However, these numbers are purely statistics and can’t be every case. Many teen boys without a DAD become successful men. Who later create their own happy families. Regardless of the situation young men with absentee fathers face many more challenges.
Fatherless Boys overcome challenges to succeed regardless
Growing up in a family with two parents is not the norm today. The uncertainty is perhaps the hardest one. Many admit to being anxious about not knowing their fathers or not remembering how they look or behave. When father forced or choose to leave the families on their own will. These questions might in turn causes self-esteem issues. The child left feeling unloved or undeserving of affection.
Boys need play time with their dad.
Often, boys find themselves daydreaming about their role model. Boys whether children or teenagers ind it hard to realize that their father leaving has nothing to do with them. Men choose to walk away from a variety of reasons and the child is never one of them. Some do not care about fathers rights child support. Low self-esteem is just one of the problems. Children tend to blame themselves for the absence of POP, and start to consider themselves not lovable. Some even believe that their father is a bad person and they are bad as well .
es as “tough guys”. This is why so can become angry.
Fathers
single-parent household today women tend to earn less than men. Woman who has to take care of her career, household, and children often finds herself struggling with all of them.
Growing without a father is difficult and challenging. Children that receive affection, approval and understanding from their other Parent, tend to deal with the situation more easy. It teaches responsibility and self-sufficiency, which are both invaluable qualities in life. The father figure helps the boys understand that mental strength is often more important than physical and what it means to be a man.
I grew up in a household of my stepfather raising me. At times I would wonder about my biological father but I was happy to have my stepdad in my life to be a father figure to me. Boys definitely need a father in their life.
Louida, Yes, boys need father figure in their lives…. a stepfather can also that the place.
As a woman who grew up without her father I can relate to this story as well. Boys and girls deserve to have their fathers in their lives. There are certain horrible experiences I survived and to this day I can’t help but wonder if having my dad would have made a difference. I am blessed to have a husband who is involved and loves being a dad.
MJ, Glad you like this post. I understand. Boys as well as girls need two loving parent in their lives. thanks for your support.
Such a nice article and also touching. It was great reading
Julie, Glad you like it.
Worse than having no father figure is having a bad one. I think a traditional family is best only when both parents are ready to BE parents. Great post!
Joely, Well said. Both parents need to be involved.
I like this. So important to develope self esteem.
Debbie, glad you like this post & thank you for your support.
My husband grew up without his father, but by God’s Grace he turned out to be a well adjusted adult! Boys definitely need their fathers, and I know some men who are still living with the effects of being a fatherless boy.
Vashti, Glad to hear about your husband grew up fine. Some men still living with the effect of what I call the fatherless syndrome. Thanks for your support.
Interesting perspective.
Wow, this is all about family right? I love this cause a lot of people didn’t grew up in a perfect family. This is great and I had learned a lot.
Angela, Glad you like this post. yes, it’s all about family. Thanks for sharing.
Angela, gLAD YOU LIKE IT. tHANKS FOR YOUR SUPPORT.
My husband grew up without his father, and he is someone that has greatly defied the odds. He is an amazing man and father to our three children. He’s creating the relationship with our kids that neither of us grew up with and I’m so grateful for that. On the other hand, I’ve also seen what not having a good father figure can do to a young man, and it definitely saddens me.
Christine, Christine, Yes, all it takes is one “Father to stand up and make a difference in a child life” Thanks for your support.
My husband’s father walked away from their family when he was only 16. He had to drop out of school to support his mom and younger siblings.
I thank God it didn’t affect him in a negative way. He turned out to be a hard worker and did the exact opposite of what his father did. He always says he will be nothing like his dad and he has kept his word for 23 years now.
Thank you for writing this lovely post.
Corina, The adolescent boys who are fortunate to have grandfathers and extended families with strong male figure are better able to build self-esteem and leadership skills. But, the majority today is seen as fatherless boys. Thanks for support.
I have a huge respect to him, my father dies when I was a teenage, and was so hurt a huge loss to our family. Glad you shared this.
Manu Kalia, Your father dead may have been a Huge loss to you. But, You turn out ok and that is a good thing. Glad you like this post& thank you for your support.