Is It You?
The holiday season is usually a time of joy, family, and togetherness. But for many teens—especially in recent years—it’s also a time of social isolation, stress, and depression. The “pandemic holiday blues” became a harsh reality for many families who had to choose between cherished traditions and protecting loved ones from illness. What once brought excitement—Thanksgiving dinners, family trips, church gatherings—was replaced by Zoom calls and lonely living rooms.
When Connection Feels Distant
Sure, a Zoom video call can bring some comfort. But let’s be real—it’s not the same. Teenagers, already craving independence and social connection, often feel the weight of being cut off from their friends, extended family, and even their normal routines.
The “holiday blues” may not be an official diagnosis, but it’s a very real emotional dip. It’s triggered by a mix of:
- Unrealistic expectations
- Financial or family stress
- Memories of past holidays
- Feeling disconnected during a time that’s supposed to be joyful
It’s Worse This Year
2020 changed everything, and even in the years since, we’re still feeling the effects. This “most wonderful time of the year” was spent by many in confinement with people they may already be struggling to get along with. The forced closeness, the absence of tradition, and the isolation have all contributed to the emotional challenges many teens (and parents) are silently navigating.
Let’s Talk About SAD
There is a medically recognized condition that strikes during the holidays: Seasonal Affective Disorder (SAD). It’s a type of depression related to changes in the seasons, typically affecting people in the winter. Reduced sunlight, cold weather, and shorter days are all triggers—and teens are not immune.
SAD can cause:
- Fatigue and low energy
- Difficulty concentrating
- Changes in sleep or appetite
- Feelings of hopelessness or sadness
It’s important to recognize that what looks like laziness or moodiness might actually be a deeper emotional battle.
Parents, Take Care of Yourselves Too
This isn’t just about teens. Parents are exhausted too. We’ve been in survival mode for months—trying to hold it together, balance remote work, deal with isolation, and manage expectations. It’s okay to admit that you’re not okay. In fact, sharing that with your teen can actually make you more relatable and approachable.
Let them see that it’s normal to feel off sometimes. This vulnerability can help bridge the emotional gap.
What You Can Do
If you or your teen are showing signs of the holiday blues or SAD, don’t brush it off. Here are a few suggestions:
- Seek professional help if things feel overwhelming. A therapist can make a huge difference.
- Start small traditions at home. It doesn’t have to be fancy—baking cookies, watching movies together, or writing letters to loved ones can make the season feel more connected.
- Encourage connection—video dinners, family group chats, or even sending hand-written holiday cards can help teens feel part of something bigger.
- Promote healthy habits—exercise, a balanced diet, and regular sleep are huge mood boosters.
The Takeaway
This season might look different, but it doesn’t have to feel hopeless. With intention, creativity, and compassion, we can redefine the holidays—not with the focus on perfection, but with a deeper focus on presence and connection.
Let’s help our teens fight the blues and create new reasons to smile.
Wishing you a safe, joyful, and emotionally well holiday season.