Overcoming Hardships Starts With One Honest Conversation.
Overcoming Hardships
Obstacles are a natural part of life. They are defined as anything that hinders or impedes our progress. Whether you’re 15 or 50, we all face roadblocks that challenge our growth, our peace, and our purpose. But for teens—caught between childhood and adulthood—those challenges can feel overwhelming, often triggering depression, isolation, and anxiety.
That’s why parents must step in—not to fix everything—but to guide, listen, and empower.
What Are Teens Facing Today?
Some of the most common struggles that today’s youth deal with include:
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Bullying (in person and online)
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Eating disorders
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LGBTQ+ identity and discrimination
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Family separation or divorce
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Substance abuse
These aren’t “just teen problems”—they’re serious emotional experiences. A teen who’s bullied or excluded may feel powerless. A child struggling with food or identity might not know how to express their hurt. The breakup of a family, or the rejection of a parent, can shatter a teen’s foundation.
If they don’t feel heard or safe, they often turn to drugs, alcohol, self-harm, or silence.
How to Get Teens Talking About Their Obstacles
It’s hard. Teens may seem distant, distracted, or even rude. But their coldness often hides confusion, sadness, and fear. As a parent, you need strategy with sensitivity. Here’s how:
1. Start the Conversation With Curiosity, Not Control
Instead of grilling them with “Why are you acting like that?”, try:
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“What’s been bothering you lately?”
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“What’s one thing you wish people understood about how you feel?”
This creates space without judgment.
2. Don’t Play Counselor—Be a Safe Listener
Let your child vent, reflect, or just exist. You don’t have to solve their problems in that moment. Simply holding space without interruption builds trust. When they’re ready, ask questions that guide self-discovery, not shame.
3. Connect Daily in Small Moments
Teenagers rarely say, “Hey, can we talk about my pain?” That’s why you need to create everyday opportunities:
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Washing dishes together
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Driving them to school
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Watching a show side-by-side
In those casual moments, they’re more likely to open up. Avoid lecturing when they finally do.
Teach Them How to Face Life’s Obstacles
Once they start sharing, empower them to tackle their struggles. Here’s a simple framework to walk through challenges:
Ask:
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Is this really a problem—or just a tough moment?
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When did it start, and why do you think it’s still here?
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What happens if you ignore it? What happens if you face it?
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What control do you have—and what’s outside your control?
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What lesson or strength might come out of this?
Help them realize: every obstacle is a teacher, and every setback contains a seed of strength.
A Message to Every Parent:
The greatest gift you can give your teen is presence.
Let them know: “Obstacles don’t define you—how you rise does.” Remind them that life gets harder, but they get stronger. And the people who rise again after being knocked down often become the most successful, compassionate, and wise.