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Keeping Secrets about Depression can Harm 

Are you Keeping Secrets? Chances are you’ve been asked by a friend to keep a secret. But keeping secrets about depression can harm. While some of those hidden tales can be pretty harmless, others tend to border on the danger zone. This whole business of secrets has recently been studied. It’s been found that covering up deep, painful, private thoughts can increase your stress levels. That’s why keeping the pain of your despair can cause you to be anxious. Try to remember this quote by author Deb Caletti: “People are secretive when they have secrets.” Think about this for a moment.

Keeping Secrets about Depression can Harm

Keeping Secrets about Depression can Harm

When is it Okay to Keep a Secret?

First–how does it affect you? Let’s take a look at the obvious for a moment. A few secrets aren’t necessarily bad if you consider the nature of the secrets. What if you’ve got a pet peeve or pleasure that isn’t harming anyone or is shameful by nature? Not sharing your entire life is not such a bad thing. It’s true, the world does not need to know about your private Pokémon collection. The fact is there are a few healthy secrets. There are even a few acceptable ones. Consider the occasional surprise party for your best friend. Or maybe it’s exciting news you have yet to share with your family, but you’re waiting for just the right moment…and so on.

Keeping Secrets about Depression can Harm

Keeping Secrets about Depression can Harm

When is it Unhealthy to Keep a Secret?

Keeping a “big” hush-hush secret can begin to eat away at your health both physically and mentally. It all starts with intention. What is the intention behind keeping silent? What are you aiming to achieve by holding things in? Are you ashamed or guilty of what people may think of you? Could your safety or well-being be at risk. Because of the secret you’re keeping? Is it something that is morally unsound?

Keeping secrets about depression can harm and cause Mental Health

Most secrets have negative intentions. As a matter of fact it is shared with good intentions at first. Eventually turn negative with selfish undertones. So the question remains, how does it affect you? The burden of secrecy was recently studied by Columbia University Assistant Professor Michael Slepian and other researchers. Results show “…it’s important to remember that an individual should only reveal the secret to the right person because revealing the secret to the wrong person could do more harm than good.”

Why Secrets About Depression Can Do Harm

Studies have shown that people who bottle up or keep secrets display higher levels of stress, anxiety, and tension. The downside to keeping a secret is that it can make a person feel vulnerable. Most of time, the person will explode and come out with the secret at the wrong time or in an inappropriate way. It does not  mean that you have to bare your soul. To every living being at any given moment but it does mean that finding a good and trustworthy friend. To confide in can help keep you from breaking under pressure.

Are you suffering from depression and keeping it locked inside, afraid of what your friends will think? Your School Counselor—who is often trusted to keep what is told confidential—is one person you can go to. Talking to someone you trust about why you are so depressed can alleviate the hurt. Do not keep it bottled in.