Not Selfish Just be Yourself. Take care of yourself doesn’t mean you are being selfish. Focus on being your own person. Many people who do so realize that spending time focusing on themselves is not such a selfish idea. For this reason, it is necessary. Being happy with yourself starts with changing your mindset. As a matter of fact, each person has a unique character that’s just waiting to be shared with the world. You are not selfish. Although society has parameters that show us how to live, walk, and talk, do what makes you happy!
Just be you…Not Selfish
Society’s clones go so far as to tell you what to wear. They dictate what we can eat and listen to in order to fit in. Do we need to have common interests in order to get along with other people? No. The truth is we don’t. Common interests do bring people together. They help break the ice, but beyond that, they shouldn’t be the defining element that keeps people together. That’s where your own character comes into play.
Inspirational video to help you see: Being happy with yourself is a necessity.
You Are Not Selfish—Recognize Your Quirks
Listen, we all have them. Embrace them! First, remember, if you have friends who don’t appreciate all of you, even the not-so-cool bits, shrug it off. Those quirks don’t define your character. They add to it.
Recognize Your Core Values and Morals
Everyone has a set of values and morals that make up who that person is. They reflect how you think and how you feel life should be lived. It’s not always easy to recognize at first, but finding what your core values are will help you to be the “real you.”
Let go of what other people think of you
People automatically try to put you in a negative light. Perhaps for them, it’s easier that way. But it is easier said than done. Let go of what the people who don’t matter think of you. What truly matters is how you see yourself—how you wish to be and what you are doing in order to get there.
Just be yourself, not selfish
Do you ever wonder what you can do to bless the world in some way?
Many people have been taught to be unselfish and always think of others first. This is an excellent ideal to strive toward. But it makes your own peace of mind and happiness dependent on other people. Your happiness lies in your own hands, not the people around you. They can and do add to your daily joy. But at the end of the day, you have the ultimate power over how you choose to feel.
When You’re Unselfish, Life Looks Brighter
If you’re thoughtful and kind, on the positive side, you can never go wrong. But every now and then, you’ll have to stand up for yourself. No matter how much you change yourself for other people, you can’t make everyone happy. Change yourself for the right reasons: the kind come from understanding who you really are. As a result, being happy with yourself should be an easier goal to reach.
“To be yourself in a world that’s constantly trying to make you something else is the greatest accomplishments.” Ralph Emerson—My daily motto.
We were all made uniquely different and serve an important purpose in life. People have become so guarded in our society that I appreciate “rawness” (someone who shows me the REAL them) more than anything. I agree that our imperfections add on to our character. We were made imperfectly perfect! Never accommodate who you are just to appease someone else. Society will give you all the reasons to be something/someone you’re not but you have the ultimate strength to say NO! Always be yourself! Embrace the beautifully flawed individual you are. You are worth it!
Kaneeshia Wade, It’s refreshing to hear that they are others who like to be around real people. Sometime we get caught up trying to fit into what society said is the norm we neglect ourselves which leaves us depressed. Thanks for your support.
Thanks for the reminder because if you go with the flow of the world you might be tempted to also put on a mask
I agree about changing yourself for the right reasons and not because someone else wants you to change or because you want to fit in a group. It’s important that you truly understand yourself and know what you want because this is what will make you happy. Forcing yourself to change to appease others will only leave you feeling sad and depressed.
Great information. As a mother of four girls this is a message I talk to them about constantly. It is so easy to lose yourself in todays society. Great post. Thank you.
I need to remind myself to let go of what people think of myself. It’s hard to sometimes.
I am always myself. Once I met the real me, I never wanted to be anyone else. Thanks for this post reminding all the importance of getting to know themselves.
I totally agree with you. My friends tell me I am totally transparent and they can immediately feel how I feel. I do not put up any wall, or mask or live my life in a pretentious way just to get attention and please people. I am what I am, if they don’t like me, then they are free to walk away.
Annemarie LeBlanc, I am always myself sometime I find that people enjoy being around fakes the great pretenders.
Absolutely! I think it is a life long journey to strengthen your ego to the point of generally being able to stand on your own two feet in the face of judgment. And certainly, having friends that are different from you, and challenge your ideas and beliefs in a loving and supportive way is critical to this. Thanks for the reminder!
Shannon, Having supportive and real friends around you can boost ones self-esteem thanks for your support.
Its so important to be yourself, or you can never be happy.
It is hard for me to be selfish. I tend to always think about what people think about me.
It is important to be yourself and i need to remind for myself and the other people “Let go of what other people think of you”
Love this article. I always try to be myself. It’s hard because some people can make a quick judgement and be negative
I stopped caring about what people might think of me a long time ago. You can’t enjoy life if you worry too much about making people happy. I would rather be myself.
I love this. We all have quirks, so you are right – lets embrace them!
I used to worry a lot when I was younger about what other people thought about me. I’ve stopped doing that and truly don’t care anymore. My self-esteem and self-worth is too high to worry about what people think.
This ‘If you’re thoughtful and kind, you can never go wrong, but every now and then you’ll have to stand up for yourself. Always remember that no matter how much you change yourself for other people, you won’t be able to make everyone happy.’.. should be placed on a banner and placed around schools every where.
Almee fauci, So true be kind and thoughtful to others and most important be yourself.
Thank you for the valuable tips and information. I sometimes have problems with # 3 but I’m trying to work thorough that and just be myself. It should only matter what I think of myself and I happen to like me :).
I am Me everyday, I say what I mean, and I mean what I say. I don’t lash, I think and often give myself the 24 hour rule before responding. Great article
Love this post! Being yourself and not worrying about what others think of you is so super important!
I came to the conclusion years ago that as long as I am not being a bad person, people will either have to learn to love me as I am or walk away. Their choice, their loss.
YES! I’m told to be myself, but that if I don’t cater to others, I’m being selfish? Just let me be me, respectfully 🙂
I smiled when I read this because my parents told me, at a very young age, I had a “fiery spirit” that almost challenged anyone who attempted to define me, rather than allowing me to define myself. As an adult, I’m hoping I can instill the same confidence in my daughter by teaching her that being true to herself is “ok”.
Love this post! Grrrrrrl power!
I agree, it’s important to stay true to your own self and take care of yourself first, while still being considerate of others.
We are all uniquely and beautifully made, if you feel like you have no self esteem, look in the mirror, you are beautiful and unique
i love this post. It’s so important to just be yourself and enjoy who you are. It’s also so hard to do.
It’s hard not to care about what others think of you, but I will say that it gets easier the older you get!
These are some really great points. I’m lucky to have family and friends who let me be myself!
Thank you for the much needed reminder! Sometimes it is so easy to get caught up in the thoughts and opinions of others. Thanks for sharing!
I love this! So many people act like a mom is selfish if she takes some alone time once in a while. In all actuality, every single one of us needs and deserves time to just be themselves by themselves sometimes.
Katie Reed, We have to take time for our self… this keep us sane.
This is a great post and always something to remember that we usually forget. Thanks for sharing.
This is a great reminder, I really love your post bc it’s reality. I’d love to share this.
Very well said. Women need a reminder every now and then that they are not being selfish if they are taking some time out for themselves. If she is happy and taking care of herself first, then only she can care for others!
I really love the message here. It is soooo important to remember
I think this definitely comes with age. I know it can be so hard as teens and tweens to let people see the real you because you want people to like you, but it’s also very liberating.
Great post! Absolutely LOVE this! I really wish people would begin to embrace themselves and their quirks. All of God’s creations are beautiful. I wish more people knew that!
recognize your quirks. OMG I know mine. And who puts up with them! 😉 LOL
Some of these lessons I really did learn late in life. I wish I’d have learned them years ago, I’d have been a lot happier.
I completely agree, and I have been called selfish because I have slowly began to realize the rest of the world is irrelevant when it comes to my happiness. Spending more time by myself with my family and identifying our quirks, core values and paying no mind to what others around us are saying is what is important in life.
Great post and a great reminder to be ourselves. I have long ago accepted my quirks and understand my limits but sometimes I find myself trying to cover them up… if people are going to be in my life they need to know ahead of time I’m not the average lady.
I’m learning to be and love myself. It’s something that I’m not accustomed to.