Come Home for Christmas, Father
Please, Dad… Just This Once
Christmas Day is supposed to be a magical time—a season that brings families together, fills homes with warmth, and creates memories children will cherish forever. But for many kids, especially daughters from fatherless homes, Christmas is a reminder of what’s missing.
“It’s not just the gifts. It’s not just the tree. It’s you, Dad. I want you home.”
What Christmas Feels Like Without You
Every year, the lights go up, the carols start playing, and the same emptiness returns. For these children, Christmas isn’t joyful—it’s a cycle of silent disappointment and aching absence.
Girls growing up without their fathers often experience the deep emotional pain of abandonment. Whether the father left by choice, circumstance, or hardship, the result is the same: a gaping wound that never quite heals.
Why a Father’s Presence Matters
A father’s role is more than material—it’s emotional security, validation, and guidance. Without it, young girls may:
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Struggle with low self-esteem
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Feel unworthy of love or attention
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Seek validation in unhealthy places
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Become vulnerable to depression and self-destructive behavior
“Dad, when you’re not there, it’s not just a quiet chair—it’s a loud silence that echoes through every part of my life.”
The Cost of Absence
According to research, 85% of youths in prison come from fatherless homes. The streets become their school, and crime offers a sense of belonging that should have come from home.
Fatherless daughters, in particular, often suffer in silence. Without a father’s words of affirmation, many grow up believing they are not enough. This emotional void can lead them to seek love in places that only deepen the hurt.
The True Poverty They Face
These children aren’t just poor in money—they are poor in soul.
The kind of poverty that comes from not having a father to cheer at their dance recital, to hug them when the world feels heavy, to say “you matter.”
No Christmas gift can fill that hole.
A Father’s Presence is the Real Gift
This Christmas, if you’re a father reading this and you’re estranged from your child: call her. Write a letter. Show up if it’s safe and possible. It’s never too late to be part of her life.
Even one Christmas spent together can start the healing. Your presence can change her story.
Final Thought: Please, Come Home
“Please, Dad… I want you to be home for Christmas this time.”
Not because of the tree. Not because of the gifts. But because your daughter still hopes for you. She still sees you as her hero. She still needs your love.
Let this be the Christmas you come back home.
Great story and It touches home.. ..I am a living testimony of a father absent, its very true and its a painful experience. .. A father is very important in a child life. So many children lives has been disrupted by the absent of their father. There is something wrong with this picture….we can teach them about God loves them, still the hole, void and absence cause many of their life’s struggle. To bring a change we as parents have to develop the Christ self (the divine faculties)In us by prayer and meditation and trust our Creator to help us with the gifts (our children) that we are bless with to raise them to be the Intelligent genius that they are created to be.
Welcome back Empress M:
You are correct so many Fatherless daughters in the world feeling loss and confused. You mention “Hole” we call deep empty feeling. To the young ladies I encounter daily my only advise is to forgive your dad so the healing process can start. I want to leave you with this quote “Forgiveness is not an occasional act, it is a constant attitude.” Martin Luther King Jr.
great story
Thank you for your support.
This may be true for some. But in my case, my life would have been better without my father. He was inconsistent with home life. He would simply leave for a drinking bout in town and come back drunk. He was negative and abusive in all ways. I remember wishing he would leave and never come back. I hate holidays and big family celebrations because he always ruined it. He would buy the liquor 4 or 5 times for Christmas or Easter or Thanksgiving ‘company’, but would have it all drank up before the holiday and have to buy new stock. Then he would say they didn’t have enough money for Christmas presents. I always hated the holidays, I don’t remember even one good one. Nothing I did was ever good enough, he even tried to sell me to the highest bidder, when I was 10 years old, starting the bid at only a quarter. Now tell me an absent father is the worst. No! Having to live with a father that made sure that you knew that you were not valued or loved or worthy of anything, but the worst treatment, left me to blankly go through life without any sense of knowing love and being the victim of many more men, who now treat their daughters the same way my dad did me.
Not every girl needs a father. Every girl needs and mom and dad that truly love, protect and care for them. Not make them feel like they were a mistake! So, I disagree with this post, sometimes girls are better without a father in their life to cause them more pain!
Life without the ability to bond, I don’t know who you are but our path cross for a reason. Your comment why you disagree with blog post please dad want you be home for Christmas this time is justified in your case. I could empathize with your pain. I want to make a suggestion that you read “Molding My Destiny” not because I am the author but I think the message…. Sometimes we have to create our own family to heal. I believe like you every child deserve both parents who love and able to nurture and protect them. Or you will go through life trying to fill that empty hole only to become a victim of many more men as you say. I wish you had not gone through such trauma. But you did. I had to step away from it all. Only then the transformation begins. When we peel away the hurt, disappointment and deal with our issues of abandonment. Then we are better able to bond with another human being.