Come Home for Christmas Father
Please its Christmas Day. A special time that brings together families. It holds the most meaning for children. This is when parents gather presents together and create an unforgettable holiday for their kids. However, the reality is very different when one of the parents is absent. Many daughters across the country are missing their fathers on Christmas .
Please Dad
Christmas comes once a year and it’s the same for these kids every year. It is nothing to look forward to. Children, especially girls who grow up in broken homes, deal with the pain of abandonment. Whatever the reason may be, the absence of a father in a girl’s life can have a very negative impact. It can completely derail the emotional development and create chaos in her life due to the lack of a positive role model.
Please want you to be Home for Christmas this time
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The teens often exhibits a diminished sense of self-worth, leading to a search of alternative venue of self accreditation, i.e. the street. The abandoned adolescent has little to no sense on physical and emotional security and they are more likely to fall prey to anyone offering these. Teenagers without involved fathers often struggle with negative emotions such as self-loathing which leads to depression.
Please come now Father
According to studies, 85 percent of youngsters in prison are products of fatherless homes. The streets are after all, their introduction to crime. Which usually seems to be the easiest way to gain acceptance.
The lack of having a Dad plays out quite painfully in relationships. These girls have never been assured of their worth by a male figure. They naturally growup thinking that they don’t have worth at all. This can often lead to the path of promiscuity, in search of validation.
These fatherless children are poor, in more than one ways. Their poverty isn’t necessarily monetary but it is an empty place in the soul that they try to fill up with support from others. And, unfortunately it doesn’t always work.
Great story and It touches home.. ..I am a living testimony of a father absent, its very true and its a painful experience. .. A father is very important in a child life. So many children lives has been disrupted by the absent of their father. There is something wrong with this picture….we can teach them about God loves them, still the hole, void and absence cause many of their life’s struggle. To bring a change we as parents have to develop the Christ self (the divine faculties)In us by prayer and meditation and trust our Creator to help us with the gifts (our children) that we are bless with to raise them to be the Intelligent genius that they are created to be.
Welcome back Empress M:
You are correct so many Fatherless daughters in the world feeling loss and confused. You mention “Hole” we call deep empty feeling. To the young ladies I encounter daily my only advise is to forgive your dad so the healing process can start. I want to leave you with this quote “Forgiveness is not an occasional act, it is a constant attitude.” Martin Luther King Jr.
great story
Thank you for your support.
This may be true for some. But in my case, my life would have been better without my father. He was inconsistent with home life. He would simply leave for a drinking bout in town and come back drunk. He was negative and abusive in all ways. I remember wishing he would leave and never come back. I hate holidays and big family celebrations because he always ruined it. He would buy the liquor 4 or 5 times for Christmas or Easter or Thanksgiving ‘company’, but would have it all drank up before the holiday and have to buy new stock. Then he would say they didn’t have enough money for Christmas presents. I always hated the holidays, I don’t remember even one good one. Nothing I did was ever good enough, he even tried to sell me to the highest bidder, when I was 10 years old, starting the bid at only a quarter. Now tell me an absent father is the worst. No! Having to live with a father that made sure that you knew that you were not valued or loved or worthy of anything, but the worst treatment, left me to blankly go through life without any sense of knowing love and being the victim of many more men, who now treat their daughters the same way my dad did me.
Not every girl needs a father. Every girl needs and mom and dad that truly love, protect and care for them. Not make them feel like they were a mistake! So, I disagree with this post, sometimes girls are better without a father in their life to cause them more pain!
Life without the ability to bond, I don’t know who you are but our path cross for a reason. Your comment why you disagree with blog post please dad want you be home for Christmas this time is justified in your case. I could empathize with your pain. I want to make a suggestion that you read “Molding My Destiny” not because I am the author but I think the message…. Sometimes we have to create our own family to heal. I believe like you every child deserve both parents who love and able to nurture and protect them. Or you will go through life trying to fill that empty hole only to become a victim of many more men as you say. I wish you had not gone through such trauma. But you did. I had to step away from it all. Only then the transformation begins. When we peel away the hurt, disappointment and deal with our issues of abandonment. Then we are better able to bond with another human being.