Teenage Depression Liar – Choose Happy
Liar…From day one it felt like despair had a dark plan. Somehow I’ve been chosen out of the mass of people to feel less. Just numb all of the time. Grief took control Felt useless throughout teenage years. I was a burden not worthy of their time. It wasn’t long before families felt the same way. In fact before misery repeat mere existence that….Faceless person. Little black spot in history that should be erased.
Teenage Depression Liar – Choose Happy Not only does sorrow say worthless. Consistent compares failures to the achievements of other people. Usually the people really close. Just to remind how ridiculous incapable of doing even the simplest things. Gloom has been an abusive friend. Just couldn’t get away from so eventually stopped trying. Because at the end of the day, no-one will love you quite like it would. Who ask for help when alone or feeling misunderstood. Only my own mental state could understand my feelings of self-hatred without making me feel hollow. But that was the irony hard times make me feel needy.
As a teen deep thoughts use to be a passed time. Why no one understand the pain. Used to beg for nothing at all. But to be relieved of my everlasting companion. Later realized the ache only ever bad after the easy times when despair would pack its bag for a week or two. Whenever emptiness stayed for long periods of time. I began to do nothing and I would kick myself for wishing I didn’t like anything.
Teenage Depression Liar – Choose Happy
What started out as “why me” questions in my early years became validation. Later sparing gloominess the hard work. I believed something different. Chosen for a life of misery couldn’t figure out why. But accepted and even making room for it. Thought about the time rode uncle’s cycle outdoor. After he told me not to. A day I can never forget. Still can’t handle tricycle because of that day. My foot stuck in the spokes this caused my big toe to split as attempt to ride was a challenge. To this day I can’t even look at motorcycle. My toenail serve as a reminder of the moment. Not so much the moment didn’t go as planned. But more validated what telling me for so long. Not worthy, stupid! Couldn’t even drive a wheeler and because of my selfishness give uncle a new reason to be angry. Of course, he didn’t, but believe when I say humiliated enough over incident. Tore me up daily.
Teenage Depression Liar – Choose Happy
Even now, after battling blues throughout my youthful years, can’t quite say that I’ve gotten over sadness. I’ve wanted to break it off a number of times. But as a young adult I’m still fighting this tyrant. Though, the fight has changed now. All these years blue mood told me that I couldn’t take control over my own life, that I’m not capable of making decisions to better my life. All these years I’ve been a victim in the situation. Perpetuating the problem by feeding the darkness it lives.
Liar – Choose Happy
Ok, so it sounds a bit like I’m saying, “So what, you’re depress, get over it!” NOT AT ALL I’m saying that instead of looking at your problems as something that has happened. You have no say over, see it as something that you can shape to suit your abilities. In reality, you are the strong one and it is the weak living off your pain. Have you ever noticed that when you feel good, you don’t give much thought to your mood that’s because it withers away. Happen to us all. Let’s talk!
I wish it was as easy as choose to be happy. When depression hits being happy is very hard.
Tara Pittman, Not saying it’s going to be easy. It’s a struggle that is face by many everyday and being happy becomes effortless. With positive support and possible medication it can be possible.
I think it is important to help children through anything that could get them down to this road. You need to remind him that they are not alone there’s 1 million other people that have similar problems and can help and always seek that help as needed.
It is so true, you are the strong one and depression is weak!
This reminds me of a book title I recently saw called Pretty Happy by Kate Hudson and she said that when people ask her how she is she usually responds by saying pretty happy because it makes her feel better about her life and that despite the good and/or bad, she is still pretty happy. With regards to depression, people may have good and bad days but I think we all need to stay positive and just think, we are all PRETTY HAPPY in the end.
Christine – The Choosy Mommy, I had to psych myself saying daily “just be happy” it work for me. Not saying it will work for everyone. Force to Remain positive is still helpful. Thanks for your comment.
Its hard to say ‘be happy’ if you have no idea what being happy feels like.
Not everyone who is depressed is sad all the time. Major depressive episode is painful and is hard for those who are suffering to be happy. Depression is different for everyone.
Depression is definitely a dangerous thing. You’re right! Communication is key! Especially for our young people!
Depression can definitely be something that can be hurtful on so many levels.
Fighting depression is a constant challenge. BUT fight it you must.
I suffer from Depression, and one of the word things people can say to me is, “just be happy!” If I had that choice, I obviously wouldn’t pick to be unhappy!
I understand “just be happy” A word I often tell myself to get over or feel better when I am feeling depressed.
There are probably so many teens struggling with these exact things. I totally get what you’re saying. People can choose how to view their depression.
Liz Mays, everyone will have their own personal story how they deal with depression. Thanks for your comment.
For someone who hasn’t experienced what it feels like to not be happy, it’s really hard to understand.
Robin Rue I hear this a lot.
Interesting read. I have no real experience with teenagers experiencing the level of depression you described here. I had my own bout with depression and so know that no blanket approach is going to help everyone out of the experience.
It is not easy to say “be happy” if its not. Sometimes they need a friend to talk too and a shoulder to cry on. Depression is one of the hardest feeling.
Carmela mempin, yes, so true and it’s not easy to say “be happy” because when you are depressed no one can convince you your life will get better. I understand your concern.
It is great to have so many supportive people around. You are brave for bringing this up.
I never dealt with depression but it’s something that people around me have and the best you can do is just to keep supporting them until they get over the sadness. There are times when you feel so hopeless and helpless too, because it doesn’t seem to go away no matter how much help you give, but you just have to keep giving no matter what.
Such an informative entry about depression, this is where we really need our family and friends to help us out and to overcome depression. Thanks for sharing.
Being happy is so important in life and knowing the signs of depression to help combat it is so important!
Being happy while struggling in a depression was really hard, so glad that you’re strong.
Depression in teens can be hard to miss sometimes.It’s important to have the discussion. It is easy for someone to say just be happy but it’s not easy to do when you’re depressed.
I agree depression is not myself and I myself have suffered with it and often have periods where I feel very low.
Depression was really a serious thing. I need to be ready for this kind of situatuion for my two boys
i hope it is easy sometimes i just woke up and feel depress as well. can’t really see what in for us in the future . always different everyday
Depression is definitely something that more people should be aware of. Thank you so much for sharing your story.
Depression was a scary thing for my kids. I need to be strong for them,
I agree that our happiness depends on being positive, but when we’re depressed it is so hard to do. May the force be with you!
I’m sorry that you have gone through this or are still going through it. I’m glad you are talking about it though. That’s a great way to try to get some change started.
depression is a really hard thing to overcome, never the less we have to because is not a good way to live that’s when a supportive family and friends become so important for a child or even a grown up
Depression is a decease that kills your happiness. I wish it is so easy to be happy and not to worry about what is going on to our lives.
As I always say we have to make sure that we are able to differentiate between moodiness and depression. Sometimes this can cause misdiagnosis
There is a lot more awareness today. That makes for better resources. I am happy for that….
I hope my children never have to deal with depression. I have been dealing with severe depression for over 10 years. I still have dark days and find it very hard to be happy. Personally for me it is not as easy as choosing to be happy. Fortunately I have a great psychiatrist and therapist I can reach out to when the darkness is too much. I take it day by day. Sometimes hour by hour.
1stopmom, Thank you for your honesty and sharing your personal struggle with depression with me. Taking it day by day sometimes thats all one can do. Depression is not easy…Having a therapist to talk to make a difference.
It is so difficult to feel more positive and happy when depression hits. The sad thing is, when we allow it to rule, we can be a slave for a very long time.
You don’t choose to be depressed, but it’s true – you can choose to get through and choose to be happy. Often if you try hard enough, you can believe you are.
I can’t speak on this matter because I never really felt depressed. Yes I had some moments where things got hard and I felt alone but I’ve always been able to shake it off.
This is something I’ve never really experienced. I had a mother who probably should have been diagnosed as bipolar. She had depressive moments and still does, and it’s hard to understand her despair.
A struggle for your Mom I suppose..Not easy her battle with depression.
I think that sometimes depression is a chemical thing in your brain. Its not always about just choosing to be happy
There is still so much stigma attached to depression. There needs to be more education and support available for those going through this illness.
Bismuth, My hope is that we will continue to discussed depression and the stigmas surround it as well. Our leaders need to take a stand more awareness is needed.
Keeping lines of communication open are so important. Making kids comfortable to know that you are safe to talk to is key!
Sandra Laflamme, You are correct. Getting kids to talk can be hard if there is no trust…Keep the lines of communication open!
I have a friend with depression and it was a very difficult time for us. I said “us” (obviously for him) because we wanted to help but didnt know how. We just talk to him and then.. we just made some “special events” that we knew he would like to join so he had some happy memories to be happy about. Family and friends support is the key
Ana, You did the right thing. Depression is hard to understand if you are not going through the depressive state. Family and friends support is a helpful gesture.
Thank you for bringing this important discussion to the Blogger’s Pit Stop. It helps to talk about it and to know one in not alone with their feelings.
Kathleen
Teenage depression sufferers should never be left alone. They must be helped to choose wisely even in their state of depression. They should be helped by discouraging them from feeding the darkness within and perpetuating the sad and gloom that eventually affects all around or associated with them!