Dating Advice for Parents
Dating advice for teens and parents. So your teen is ready for dating. You had hoped for a few more years; never would have been good too, but here you are and it’s time to face it. Getting through this next phase unscathed is a priority. Here are a few things to remember. “If you don’t look back to self reflect. You are only going to repeat the same mistakes. Those mistakes will continue to show up in your dating lifescape. Because you haven’t learned the lesson they were supposed to teach you.” Jaha Knight
Dating advice there will be challenges
Buckle up. You’re in for a ride (but hopefully not) Young love undeterred hurt of lost love. Remember your first love? It was possibly a very happy time of your life until it was over. Part of growth as a mature person depends on these kinds of life lessons. It doesn’t mean you have to let your teen throw herself into a terrible situation, but do let her have her own experiences.
Why dating advice for your teen
- Be strict about getting the phone number of the person your teen is with. If not the teenager, then the teenager’s parents. It’s a bit of a dying practice today and your teen is likely to fight you against it. Do it anyway. You’ll be sorry that you didn’t if something should go wrong.
- Make a point of meeting the boy or girl before the date. Even if it’s a just to see your teenager off.
- Set age-appropriate curfews and expect your teen to adhere to the rules.
Dating advice rules
- Don’t judge your teenager’s crush. Ever. “But he’s just not right for her and we can see it as parents!” Yes, however, she can’t and she won’t until he does something wrong. Your judgment may only make her unhappy or more likely to stick with him. “Don’t judge you say? But she’s not even a good girl. We can’t let our boy date someone like her.” Chillax mom and dad, if she’s really not a good girl, he will see it eventually.
- Talk to your teen about all the things that could go wrong and all the things that should go right. If the dating phase has started it may be a wise idea to have that “birds-and-the-bees” chat now, if you haven’t done so already. Your teen cannot make the right decisions if he’s uninformed. “Ask yourself, does this person make me feel good about myself? Do I feel safe, strong and free with this person? Those are the questions you need to ask….You have to be strong to truly be open.” April Sinclair, I Left My Back Door Open
- Discuss abstinence make it 100% clear that you do not advocate the idea of intimates. Teenagers will do as they please regardless, but at least you will feel somewhat at ease knowing there is no risk of an unwanted pregnancy. This is a bit of a tough situation, but if you and your teen are close enough, you could use the opportunity to remind her of the consequences of unprotected sex. Yes, this is something you’ll have to deal with from now on.
- It’s worth talking to your child about cultural differences. Inter-racial and inter-cultural relationships are becoming sort of accepted norm now. That doesn’t mean they come without their challenges. Chat a bit to your child about the differences and encourage understanding. Love knows no boundaries, that’s true…but you don’t know if it’s true love yet.
- Show your teenager what a healthy relationship should look like by upping your game with your partner. (This will be beneficial to you both, as well as your teen). Keep it fresh and honest.
All right then, good luck Captain. You’re no longer steering the ship on your own. Let your teenager take over the wheel while you navigate the heavens. You’ll both be just fine